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Internet dating with a naked redhead

Internet dating with a naked redhead

The Naked RedheadIn March of this year I attended the Chevy SXSW Road Trip Challenge.  We met a lot of great people and forged many new friendships during a week that none of us will soon forget. One of the people I met is Sarah Storer, known as @thenakedredhead on Twitter. She is a comedian, public speaker, blogger and general internet hustler, with a unique view on life and relationships.

The Naked Redhead

Besides being awesome, she's a helluva looker, too!

Icrontic’s community manager Brian “primesuspect” Ambrozy informed me recently that Sarah had written a blog post offering to help hopeless idiots like me with our dating profiles and to help us find what we are looking for. For a modest fee, she would give you advice—not only on how to write your profile, but to get more exposure as well. I don’t know if I was hoping for good results as much as I was just curious to see what she would say. Since I met her, I have always found her to be a fascinating person, and I just wanted to hear what she would say about my love life.

So I contacted Sarah on Facebook, paid her for the service, and got to work on my profile on OKCupid. I opened up to her and told her everything I could, (probably even a little too much at times) about what I wanted in a relationship, the type of girls I like, my dealbreakers, etc. She went right to work on the changes I needed to make to my profile. She didn’t judge me and was very accommodating to my unique personality. But she also wasn’t afraid to tell it like it is.

Now, before I had hired Sarah to help me with my profile, I had very mixed feelings about OKCupid and the experiences that I had. I went through a period where I was meeting women that I had a lot in common with, and things seemed good on the surface, but after we started dating it became more and more clear that these girls were looking for something I couldn’t give them, nor frankly did I want. I am not financially stable, I still go out a lot, I take a lot of risks in my career, and I don’t even want to think about when I’m going to be ready to have kids or get married. I desire to be in a committed relationship with an independent, open-minded woman that can take care of herself and isn’t in a hurry to get married and knocked up. I knew that there were plenty of women out there for me, but I wasn’t finding them. I had been encouraged, however, by the fact that I was having more success with OKCupid than I had with any other dating site, so I wasn’t quite ready to give up.

Sarah helped me re-write my profile, to attract the type of women I was looking for without coming off as abrasive and arrogant. Sex is very important to me in a relationship, and I wanted to make sure that it was also important to the person I was meeting. Sarah helped me convey that in my profile without coming off as a perv. As I read through her advice, it all made a lot of sense to me, and I started to get very excited about the possibilities. She helped me pick out photos that fit my personality, and even gave me advice on the captions. Her attention to detail was quite impressive, and I couldn’t be happier with the results.

As soon as I edited my profile, I immediately got a lot of responses. There were two in particular that seemed to have a lot in common with me, and also seemed to be looking for the same things that I was. Since then I have met up with both of them, and had a great connection with them as well. One of them I had a very deep connection with, and have started courting her. We had a very romantic evening over the weekend, and have spent hours talking on the phone with each other, and getting to know each other better. We’ll be going on our second date this week, and I’m really looking forward to seeing where this goes. I have even found out that we have some friends in common, who found out that we are seeing each other and instantly thought we were a great match.

I am very happy with the direction my love life is heading in. It’s too early to tell how far it’s going to go, but at least I know that if things don’t work out, I will still have my stellar dating profile to fall back on. Everything seems to have happened so fast, and I’m really glad that I took the leap to do this.

Perhaps you are like me, and you are having trouble finding the right person. I have never been great at meeting women or initiating conversation. I am good at relationships, but it’s been very difficult for me to find someone that I desired to be with enough to put in the effort needed to make the relationship work. I’m a nerd, and a hopeless romantic, and I make no apologies for it. I’ve just found that there are a lot of women who are not looking for that, are shallow, or have too many trust issues getting in the way. Besides that, I’ve never had any desire to settle for a relationship that I wasn’t fully comfortable with. I’m picky, and I’d rather be alone than miserable. I eventually became comfortable with being single, and strived to hold out until I found the right woman. Needless to say, helping me find love was not an easy task to take on. Sarah was up for the challenge, and she did a great job, and for that I will be forever thankful.

If you are having trouble finding the right people on internet dating sites, and you need some help, I would highly recommend checking out Sarah’s blog and hiring her for her services. And if you do, please either post about it here on Icrontic, or send me a message and let me know how it went.

Comments

  1. The Naked Redhead Thanks for the amazing write-up! I am so happy you've found success with your profile. :)
  2. Tushon
    Tushon Will probably be looking into this in a couple months
  3. djmeph
    djmeph I might as well post a link to my OKCupid profile for anyone that's curious to see the results. http://www.okcupid.com/profile/djmeph
  4. Cliff_Forster
    Cliff_Forster Word smithing is okay as long as its still geniune. Always be yourself.
  5. The Naked Redhead @Tushon...hit me up! I'm happy to help!

    @Cliff_Forster...I TOTALLY agree. That's why I send out a detailed questionnaire, as well as encourage my clients to really open up to me as I'm writing for them. I want it to be THEM on the page, and I even use specific words and phrases they give me. My goal is just to arrange things so that it's readable (and likable) by a stranger. :)
  6. one234h
    one234h Wow, this is awesome. I have a lot of respect for people who are willing to put themselves out there on a dating site!
  7. QCH
    QCH The Naked Redhead, You're the modern "Hitch". Some folks may look, from the outside, and see this as a gimmick to trick people. If you stick to what you say and your clients are honest then the matches may very well be stronger since it's more honest and sincere. I've got a few friends that cannot type/spell/express themselves in words and really are awesome and articulate. You talk to them then see how they write and they don't match. YOU can help them find love. Awesome!
  8. The Naked Redhead @QCH...Yeah, in a lot of ways, I see myself as a wingwoman of sorts. The great thing about working with Norm was that he really is an awesome dude...we just needed to figure out how that looked in print and picture form. :)
  9. QCH
    QCH
    @QCH...Yeah, in a lot of ways, I see myself as a wingwoman of sorts. The great thing about working with Norm was that he really is an awesome dude...we just needed to figure out how that looked in print and picture form. :)
    BTW, might as well join IC. You'll fit in here and we always need more... :eek2:

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